rouguang
i just think it's so wild that lan wangji and xue yang parallel each other over having lost their loved one in such a drastic way (both souls nearly disappearing) and the fact it wasn't until their beloved was gone that they realized or came to terms with just how they really felt for them. i'm not sure if lan wangji would let himself relate too much to xue yang but i do wonder if his "how fortunate..." could also be from seeing how xxc's death and xue yang's desperation for years and years to get him back could have happened to lwj too in a world where he let himself fall into the deep end of grief. how fortunate then that wei ying came back to him...
i also think it's interesting that yi city family and wangxian family both are made up of 1- a person who sticks to their ideals steadfastly but also feels guilt about their own 'failings' enough to sacrifice themselves over and over, 2- a person who never let anyone get close to them in an intimate way, but when they found that one person they would never give up on them, and 3- a child who lost their family and was forced to live in poor conditions to survive but then was taken in by person 1 and 2 and given a new family (and 4- a formerly close loved one of person 1 who they had a massive falling out with and is hated by person 2)
