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there probably is something to be said about the unhealthy pressure put on bisexuals to analyse not only like, the validity of our bisexuality but also the minute ways we experience our attraction. like, do you have a gender preference or not? do you lean towards men or women? do you feel attraction to different genders in different ways? surely your attraction is based on highly gendered stereotypes. do you like gnc people? do you like masc or fem presenting people? etc, etc
and it leads us to over scrutinise and fracture our sexuality in ways we shouldn't have to. not to mention, the ways we define and describe ourselves has to meet some measure of being progressive enough before its acceptable, and that measure changes depending on the community you're in. it doesn't lead to a healthy view of ourselves or other bisexual people. bisexuality is already a whole sexuality and despite assurances to the contrary, it's obvious that a lot of people can't wrap their heads around that. simply because they still see men and women as completely divorced from each other and struggle to know how attraction to both can function as a whole.
like nowhere is this more clear than in the way attraction to nonbinary people (and trans people as a whole in some cases) has been turned into a third category separate from attraction to men and women. if you fracture bisexuality into two parts, a separate attraction to men and another separate attraction to women, then theres no room for nonbinary people than anything other than another attraction which is once again divorced from the binary genders in order to reduce any disruption caused to our pre-existing structures of gender and our understanding of what men and women are.
